What to do when you want to make contact with the other side.
I was 48 years old when I first saw spirit. I wasn’t afraid, I was just so amazed that they would appear and then disappear. I was walking through cancer. I was full of chemo and scared I was going to die. That is when I could sense and feel my grandma Aiello and my best friend Annie in spirit. They would come and hold my hand. They would just be with me. They comforted me when I was crying. I knew everything would be ok. I remember telling my mom I could see my grandma from the corner of my eye. It never scared me. I was grateful. As I healed I only sense them now when I call them. But I know they are only a thought or a mental call away. Last week when my auntie died I rejoiced knowing that her spirit was in Heaven. I thought of the reunion of all that side of the family. What a celebration of her life I felt instead of the finality of death.
I often get asked how people can talk to the other side. It’s a two-way communication that requires lots of patience and practise and the ability to stop your mind from getting in the way. Sometimes you can clear your mind by going into a relaxation meditation, you should never be in a stressful situation when you want to communicate. Get out of your head and into your heart. Ask - allow- believe and then receive the signs.
When we are in the depths of grief it is harder for them to communicate. They want us in the high energy of love, light and Joy. That's not to say that they won't communicate with us during our grief but that it is harder.
The thing is not to give up! Spirit has to learn to communicate as well. It’s something that will be learned on the other side but only if they want to. You may wonder why they don’t want to communicate with you? It’s not that they don’t love you but sometimes they need to heal and this can take a long time, depending on how they passed. If your loved one died traumatically they have to spend more time in the healing space and as your vibration elevates and they heal and you put out the call they eventually will answer. That is how it was with my friend Fay. It took a long time before I could feel or sense her spirit. But now I can hear her laugh in my head and I smile. When her son recently had his first child, I could hear her in my thoughts telling me thank you for caring for him.
My best advice is to find a nice quite place in nature or just go into a room in your house where you know you won’t be disturbed. Ground yourself and connect to the Divine. Ask for your spirit guides to be present. Ask that only the highest vibrations to visit. To establish a connection, you can hold an item that may have belonged to them as it will still have their imprint on it, or perhaps a photo of when they were happy and well. Learn discernment and if you ever feel a lower vibe, ask God and AA Michael to rid that energy.
Don’t give up! Remember our time is not the same as Heaven time.. Know that even though you may not feel them around you, they do come to you – mainly at night and as visitations in your dreams.